I’d like to introduce you to a lovely new friend, Corin Hughs. I’m thrilled to announce that Corin has a book releasing in the fall, so be sure to go to her website and keep up with her news! Today, however, she is sharing about marriage and communication.
Join me in welcoming Corin!
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My husband joined Facebook about the same time he and I received the life-changing titles of Mommy and Daddy. We enjoyed sleepy evenings together on the couch, perusing his ‘friends” Facebook posts. For a season, we noticed a common post called “My Top 25” where people listed 25 things about themselves. Lists included favorite foods and TV shows, books and movies, quotes and Scriptures, preferences and personal facts. We enjoyed photo posts of other people’s children, and chatted about our friends’ families growing and changing just like ours.
Before we knew it, two months had whisked by and my birthday appeared on the calendar. To celebrate, we planned our first date since becoming parents! I felt giddy all week, eager to go on a date with my high school sweetheart, my husband of (at the time) four years, my first love. My best friend. Then I fretted: What would we talk about? I had been staying home with our daughter since she was born. I updated my husband daily on my days with our sweet little blessing. What else did I have to say?
As a fun surprise, I made a “My Top 25” list. After ordering our food, I blushed as I quietly slid the typed page across the restaurant table for my husband to read. My list included things like, “My perfect chocolate chip cookie has 15 chocolate chips” and “I love the smell of rain” and “I’d rather not keep score than let someone feel like they lost.” Sprinkled in with these silly characteristics stood one defining quality. One most important fact about me. So important, in fact, that I should have titled my list “My Top One” and deleted everything else.
I wrote, “I find purpose in seeking to know and love God more each day.”
That’s it. That’s me. Or, at least, that’s who I want to be.
But then life happens…FAST!
That date was over five years ago. I’m now a thankful mom of three children. My alarm clock seems to blare mere moments after I climb into bed. I find myself still sipping on my six o’clock cup of coffee at ten a.m. (three times microwaved!). I smooth wrinkles out of day old laundry while folding it, hoping the creases will just “fall out” when worn! I scour cookbooks for healthy, delicious meals and then dish up grilled cheese and fresh fruit when my family doesn’t agree that it’s a “five star” recipe like the thousands of other people who rated it (who are they!?)
Amidst all this, I steal time to feel myself melt under a kiss from my children and store in my heart the clamminess of their palms as we hold hands while crossing a street. While conquering a sink full of dishes, I toss a flirty smile across the kitchen to my husband, pretending the suds on my eyebrow are intentional.
Oh yes, and I’m living out my dream of writing novels (a dream that requires a lot of work!). Novels filled with characters who I confuse for my real-life friends, characters who endure struggles even I’m surprised by, and who grow deeper in their faith in such a way that I, too, am challenged to evaluate my own faith.
Hours rush into days that turn into months…
Am I keeping my “Top One” my top one? Because “my” top one was not my idea. I plagiarized from God. Deuteronomy 6:5 reads, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”
Well, do I? Do I love God more than anything else?
Does it show in my life? Does my love for God show in my roles as wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, neighbor and writer? Because before I assumed any of those roles, I was (and am) first a child of God. He commands me to love Him wholly and completely. Above anything. More than I love anyone else. More than my husband, children and parents. More than my time spent writing.
When I put God first, He will give me the wisdom and strength I need for everything else. Through studying God’s Word, I learn that He tells me to honor and respect my husband. He outlines the wisdom needed for me to ensure my children know they are loved and learn how to forgive. He gives my writing purpose. More than merely entertaining, I write to challenge my own faith and, hopefully, my reader’s faith.
Loving God gives my life purpose. It is the foundation of my life. Everything else builds on it. If my foundation changes or shifts, everything built on top of it crumbles. I am beyond grateful for the titles of wife and mother and writer. I am honored, awed, blessed.
But, I must always remember my first title: Child of God. May I daily live out my “Top One” by speaking, acting and writing with the purposeful intention to know and love God more each day.
What would be on your “Top One” list? Please leave a comment! And, if you’re on Facebook, consider making it your post for the day (”The most important thing you need to know about me is…”). I wonder what kind of conversation it will stir!
Corin Hughs wrote her first “book” the summer after third grade, an illustrated children’s book about the principle of compromise (the main characters were pigs!). Many years have passed since that book, but she never stopped writing. Her first novel, Loving, will be available in October 2013. Now, in addition to writing novels, she delights in writing notes of love and encouragement to her children. Corin married her high school sweetheart nearly 10 years ago, and they have three young children. Please visit www.corinhughs.blogspot.com to learn more.
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Thank you, Corin. What a great challenge!
There’s still time to enter the giveaway for Lori Benton’s book, Burning Sky! The drawing will be held on Thursday, August 29th, at 10 p.m. Pacific time, so don’t miss out. Click on the link HERE to enter!
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